Everything about Ketubah totally explained
A
ketubah (; pl.
ketubot) is a
Jewish prenuptial agreement. It is considered an integral part of a traditional
Jewish marriage. It states that the husband commits to provide food, clothing and marital relations to his wife, and that he'll pay a specified sum of money if he divorces her. If he dies, leaving her a widow, the
ketubah amount is the first charge on his estate.
History
The rabbis in ancient times insisted on the marriage couple entering into the
ketubah as a protection for the wife. It acted as a replacement of the biblical
dower or
bride price, which was payable at the time of the marriage by the groom to the bride or her parents. The
ketubah became a mechanism whereby the amount due to the wife (the
dower) came to be paid in the event of the cessation of marriage, either by the death of the husband or
divorce. It may be noted that the biblical
bride price created a major social problem: many young prospective husbands couldn't raise the bride price at the time when they'd normally be expected to marry. So, to enable these young men to marry, the rabbis, in effect, delayed the time that the amount would be payable, when they'd be more likely to have the sum. The mechanism adopted was to provide for the
bride price to be a part of the
ketubah. It may also be noted that both the dower and the
ketubah amounts served the same purpose: the protection for the wife should her support (either by death or divorce) cease. The only difference between the two systems was the timing of the payment. It is the predecessor to the wife's present-day entitlement to
maintenance in the event of the breakup of marriage. Another function performed by the
ketubah amount was to provide a disincentive for the husband contemplating
divorcing his wife: he'd need to have the amount to be able to pay to the wife.
Role in Wedding Ceremony
The
ketubah is
not part of the Jewish marriage ceremony, however, the groom and bride may not engage in marital relations, although the marriage has been completed, unless two valid witnesses have signed a
ketubah. At the wedding the signed ketubah is handed to the bride, and it becomes her property, and her guarantee that she won't be left with nothing should the marriage dissolve or should her husband die.
Design and Language
Contemporary ketubot have many different styles of language and designs, depending on the beliefs and traditions of the couple. Traditionally, the language of the ketubah formalises the various requirements by the
Torah of a Jewish husband
vis à vis his wife (for example giving her adequate resources for dress, sexual intercourse), and stipulates the sum to be paid by him in case of divorce, which is 200
Zuz (a Talmudic currency) - generally considered the sum to support oneself financially for a full year.
A traditional ketubah is written in Aramaic. Conservative Jews often include an additional paragraph, called the
Lieberman clause, which stipulates that divorce will be adjudicated by a modern rabbinical court in order to prevent the problem of the
agunah.
Reform Jews and
interfaith couples often opt for more egalitarian language, similar in tone to marriage vows, which stress the values on which they base their relationship and marriage (love, companionship, family, tradition, etc.). Many times a traditional text will be accompanied by a more creative, poetic and egalitarian rendition in English. Because there's a variety of available texts, betrothed couples often consult their rabbi or wedding officiant in order to determine which ketubah text is right for them.
A recent flourishing of non-standard ketubah texts have provided more specialized options for marrying couples, including those designed for same gender couples, couples with only one Jewish partner, secular humanists, and other individually crafted commitment texts.
After Marriage
The ketubah is one of the predominant forms of Jewish art, or
judaica, found in the home. Ketubot are often hung prominently in the home by the married couple as a daily reminder of their vows and responsibilities to each other. Ketubot have been made in a wide range of designs, usually following the tastes and styles of the era and region in which they're made. Many couples follow the Jewish tradition of hiddur mitzvah which calls for ceremonial objects such as the ketubah to be made as beautiful as possible. They choose a design which reflects both their artistic tastes and their feelings about marriage. Many designs incorporate religious or secular symbolism, such as the
Tree of Life, the
Star of David,
Jerusalem, or images from nature. According to Jewish law, a woman may not sleep with her husband unless she knows the location of her ketubah; if the ketubah is lost relations are suspended until it can be recreated.
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